Archive | March 2016

Love May Begin With A Bondage, But It Ends With Freedom

This life goes on. We meet people and we befriend them on business terms, casual or in a deep relationship. We know folks cannot stay in our lives forever unless they are family. One day they have to leave. Then why is it that we cannot digest their separation? Why is it that we feel so bad and distressed when they look happy in their company and we feel something is not right. This is the feeling of overbearing or possession. It’s our basic instinct since ancient times. The medieval kings and queens had possession for jewels, richness, and kingdom. Some had addiction for protecting their beauty family or relations. They did everything in their power to claim what they loved, but in the end, it fades off. This is what I want to stress here. People and things do not stay or live with you forever. They will have to leave someday whether you want. Even your soul leaves you when you are old and fragile. These are just material aspects then why to fret to over them and lose our lives just like that.

Some people are the greatest consumers and sound like control freaks. They think they can have anything or anyone in the world, which is pure hallucination. Psychologists term this as a kind of disorder and get a treated for that. It works ultimately if the patient lives in a recouping environment and gets a thorough understanding of what life is. We ought to let go of the things we cannot control. Truth is having everything in your life would not make you happy but anxious. The more you get the more you will fret about its protection and safety.

Where do I keep this gold, this money, and these jewels? How do I protect my man my girl, my friend from that good for nothing-loud mouth? This is mine, she/he dare not touch it, or I will slay him. My dear friends this does not make sense. What was yours will remain yours if it is ought to. There is no pointing in forcing someone to be with you or you both will suffer a lot. Manipulations will only lead to sadness and loss. Love is not tagged with a punch line of “BEING MINE” or “PRIVATE PROPERTY”. Some view its oneness in a single person while some make it divine. They respect and love everyone equally and categorically. Nothing is less or nothing is more for them. Such folks tend to live longer and without any bondage of affection.

I am not taking any sides. OK? There are no sides. You can be in love like Christian and Anastasia or you can take a step further to turn into a divine providence. It is your choice in the end. Just be happy in whatever you choose and let others be happy with you. Life is too short to give pains to people so whatever is left please keep it as good and do not hurt others.

So long my friends. See you soon.

Having everything in life may make you happy but it wont give you the real satisfaction. We are born because of God’s order and our aim is to spread happiness around us but it cannot be done unless we stop to consume or possess things for our selfish motives.

 

This entry was posted on March 26, 2016.

For the Person You Are

download (42)A healthy relationship has no need for petty games, as such never make him/her feel disrespected, unimportant, or controlled. Instead make her/him feel loved, important and needed in the relationship, show the one you love what REAL trust and communication looks like. Nobody wants to go through a cycle of pain, lies, and betrayal and nobody should!

Love between two people has been and always will be a verb and as such is requires action. That means both parties need to make it crystal clear just how much they love one another, honestly if a person is constantly saying that they love you and no action is taking place (whether it’s big or small) that is just not going to work out.

A small gesture of love is not too much to ask and the person you want to be with needs to understand this.

The ability to accept your partner (and vice-versa) for who they are in the moment you fell in love with them and not with the person who they *may* become is without a doubt a major key to a successful relationship. Nobody wants to be with a person who refuses to accept the present for what it is.

Any relationship that lacks true honesty is doomed from the get go, because eventually the lies will build up and come crashing down destroying everything you both have toiled to build, however with communication and forgiveness is can definitely be amended but the relationship will be forever changed dishonesty is a hard thing to get over (to say the least). Honestly honesty is an essential building block to a sturdy love.

Knowing what you want out of the relationship beforehand is always a good thing. Being up front and vocal about it is also for the best because mixed signals can lead to horrible things (very horrible lol), and never ever ever ever settle for less. Commit to being happy within any relationship you choose to enter whether its for a short time or a long stay.

Trusting another person comes down to a personal decision and if that person decides to let you down… Remember they made a choice to do so, and since everyone deserves to be with a truthful and caring person if you find they can no longer be that, then why stay any longer?

It’s very hard to trust a person to do the right thing after they have crossed that line and staying in the relationship may cause you unnecessary strain in your life. Let them make the choice because it’s ultimately up to you how many lies you are willing to put up with in the end.

One true mark of a good relationship is when you can tell each other anything and everything. Pretty much a love void of secret and lies. Who wouldn’t want to feel love like that?

No point in being in a relationship without getting and giving some type of support. Learn how to love you, Be Yourself.

 

This entry was posted on March 20, 2016.

The 7 Habits of Smart Magnetic Women – How to Be Happy In Your Relationship & Mesmerize Your Man

download (41)By harnessing the power of habit you can enjoy the life and relationship you really want.

Here are the seven habits of smart magnetic women that will keep you feeling nurtured and vibrant with lots of love in your heart.

Are these habits part of your daily life? Which ones do you need to adopt to create the life that delights you?

There is simply no way to create a deep intimate connection with your partner, if you don’t prioritise your self-care.

If you don’t have a habit of putting yourself first on your to-do list, then you probably feel resentful and depleted, or blame your partner for not giving you what you need.

This energy is not magnetic! And your partner won’t be inspired to give you what you need if you appear resentful, demanding or needy.

So, what can you do about it?

Put first attention on yourself. Find out what you feel, and what you need. Fill your love tanks up. When we are nourished we are more relaxed. Also, when we are more relaxed, we have the ability to make a request, rather than blame.

Of course we know that there is a request behind every blame. But when we feel stressed and unloved, it might be really hard to make a request that inspires action. The resentment will sneak out, he’ll sense it, and shut down. The energy behind your requests is crucial.

I invite you to take a stand for your life and practice extreme self-care. What makes your eyes shine? What fulfils you, and makes the stars fall out of your heart, and onto every passer-by?

There are seven fundamentals that are vital for women to fully enjoy life.

#1. Movement

To connect to our bodies, we need movement that brings us joy. Are you dancing, or practicing any other kind of movement that makes you feel excited, and ready to jump out of bed? Think of movement rather than exercise. The thought of exercise can be draining, and that is the opposite of what we need.

#2. Healthy Diet

Yes, Beautiful, yes. Healthy eating is important for love.

How is your diet? Sometimes nutritionists make it rather hard. In fact, it’s pretty simple. Eat more raw greens, colourful veggies, and fruits. Buy as little as possible packaged food, and drink lots of pure water. Homemade food prepared with love, and joy can do miracles. Start eating more fruits, and sweet root vegetables, and you will have fewer cravings for sweets.

I invite you to become curious about your relationship with food, and start treating your body with love and respect, as if you are feeding your baby. Of course, you want to feed your baby the most nutritious food.

#3. Sleep

We need rest. Sleep is so essential for us to feel sexy and loving. Don’t underestimate its significance? They say that for our biological clock to be at its best, we need to go to sleep by ten at night, and get up by seven in the morning. This makes us feel thrilled about the new day, and more inclined to share our love with our man. Do you feel loving and sexy when you are tired? Make it a habit to go to bed by ten, in order to enjoy your dreams.

Sleep is far from a waste of time. It recharges our batteries, fills us up with patience and love, and allows our spirits to process each day’s events in a gentle manner.

#4. Spending Time with Girlfriends

It’s amazing what the company of women can do for us. Have you tried a girls’ weekend away? It can do wonders. We nourish each other, and we fill each other with sensual, calm, and nurturing energy. Finally, talking about our feelings without someone else, trying to solve the problem. What a miracle. Girlfriends are the best people to talk with, and unload our “stuff.”. They listen, and know we just need to talk, and empty our heads. After we are nourished and cleansed, we have much more capacity to meet our men, and be ready for romance.

#5. Time Alone and Spiritual Practice

How do you feel after spending time by yourself? With our busy lifestyles, we often forget how good it feels to spend time alone, and connect with ourselves.

We need to have alone time to centre ourselves, and check what is happening inside. We need time to distance ourselves from our life’s everyday issues. We need time to see the bigger picture, to plug into the energy of the universe, and to sense the higher purpose of our lives.

#6. Time with Nature

Fresh air heals our bodies, purifies us, and gives us so much energy. The sun energises us, increases our happiness hormones, and supplies our bodies with important vitamin D. The wind blows out destructive thoughts, and wakes up the sensuality of our skin.

#7. Sensual Touch and Sex

“Sensory stimulation is a nutrient that the brain must have to develop and function normally.”~James Prescott

Make a “touching date” with your man. It’s better to agree that you won’t go into sex. Just caress each other, feeling the skin, and awakening your senses. Choose whose turn is first to receive and indulge in the feelings without trying to give your touch, and love at the same time. Be totally selfish! Then, when it’s your turn to give, fully give, and enjoy giving. If you touch each other at the same time, it diffuses the intensity, and doesn’t give so much pleasure. Try to be in a completely giving or receiving mode. This can feel very vulnerable and exciting; so explore!

We need sex. It’s not just about pleasure; it’s important for our well-being, and full enjoyment of life.

So, by taking care of yourself, you will take care of your relationship. Not caring about yourself is selfish. You are less patient and have less to give.

 

This entry was posted on March 8, 2016.

How to Choose Your Partner and Build a Stronger Relationship

download (40)Finding the right person and building a relationship is the topic of the century. More and more people break up, divorce or find themselves lonely and disappointed by their partners.

In my own journey I have tried to understand what have I overlooked. It turned to me that key and most common to a couple’s success is the willingness to invest. Just like you take time to go through education, specialize in your job, learn a foreign language or raise a child, a couple is no different. Requires effort to build it and constant attention and interest for your beloved one. Here is what to look for in broad lines and 3 categories.

Firstly, at the beginning, you need to look for some common grounds related to life in general. Mind for similar level of education and career aspirations, choice of geographical location, desire for long-term relationship or building a family. Same applies for lifestyle expectations, religion and values or sexual compatibility.

Secondly, watch for deal-breakers: vices, infidelity, abuse, immaturity, 3rd party intervention, self and self-worth insecurities, care for appearance and cleanliness. As you dive into the relationship, recheck for point 1 above: religion and upbringing differences, long distance, significant income differences, money interests or money or fame greed, another family, interest for personal development.

Thirdly, if you feel comfortable that the above criteria does not raise major issue, then, it is worthwhile paying a closer attention to building your partnership at a stronger level. Perhaps you have already been doing so, which is great, this will therefore only raise your awareness.

1. Build each other’s confidence, treat with trust and respect
2. Support individual projects for further personal growth and sharing
3. Ensure time together for common passions and hobbies
4. Practice positivity, patience and whatever you do, do it with good intentions and love
5. Increase your level of presence and embody two-way communication (when in conflict talk about facts and your feelings without throwing arrows at the other person)

As the relationship advances and years pass, perhaps remind yourself to:

1. Make sure you stay in touch: hug, kiss, write, talk, plan for connection and intimate moments
2. Realign your priorities, interests and vision for success (avoids unmet expectations)
3. Don’t get lost in roles (parent, child or toxic relationships; you are an adult for your couple) or lose identity (do only things that other wants and not take care of self)
4. Practice healthy communication (positive feed-back, allow SARAH, conflict resolution)
5. Don’t get caught in thoughts, worries and material possessions, but take life with ease and be in the flow. That will bring security and joy in a natural way

How do you know he or she is the right ”one” for you?

If all things in the right direction, you feel it. Your intuition tells you. You effortlessly flow in the same direction, you dream together, you do not care what others think or say. Your partner is your friend, lover and confident and you grow together. In a partnership fears are waived, feelings are not guessed but shared, disapproval will be done from equality. You are comfortable together and you want to be part of each other’s activities even if they don’t seem extremely special. Doing nothing is wonderful together. You are joyful, energized and passionate. Conversations unwind, you laugh at each other without hearting feelings and you don’t feel an urge to control what the other is doing.

Depending on your stage in life and personal agenda, above may or may not apply. You may wish to decide for yourself what is the criteria that matters at every step. Make your own list of ”musts” and ”deal-breakers”. Whilst picturing it, you may come to realize lots of things about what is important to you, what really matters in your relationships and what are the things that you could never come to terms with. Generic recipes don’t work for everybody. They are meant to kick the process of self-discovery, investigation and personal development.

 

This entry was posted on March 1, 2016.